TY Bello: I'M Victim of Sexual Abuse when i was 7 years old

TY Bello I'M Victim of Sexual Abuse when i was 7 years old.

TY Bello is a Nigerian Popular Singer and Photographer, who recently narrated the story of how she was sexually molested at the age of 7, she said the silence which she endured after the sexual molestation almost killed her, she reveal earlier on her Instagram page following the trending rape allegation saga.

TY Bello adding her own sexual abused history to the ongoing allegation on rape against Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly{COZA} by Mrs Busola Dakolo,wife of the popular nigeria singer Tim Dakolo.

TY Bello said she was a Victim of sexual abused and the silence which she kept all this years after been abused almost get her killed, the 40years old singer said she only found relief because of her close relationship with God.

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The singer also disclosed the negative effect the incident has on her formative years, sexual abuse made her feel inferior to other girls, she use to see other females as beautiful flowers and saw herself as a dirty cement 'hard and ugly' because of her past experience, she added.

In her recent interview with movie producer, Kemi Adetiba on the series titled #KingWomen encouraging women to stand up, strive hard despite circumstances.

see said in the interview

"I was sexually abused as a child {7years} and because of that, I felt like there was something ugly about me that made me encounter such, this was'nt the abuser's fault,its was mine".

"I used to see other girls as a flower and myself as dirty cement 'hard and ugly', i never felt beautiful, everything was wrong with ,my brows was wrong, i was hairy and it was a problem, i always attributed everything that was about me to be the reason the abuser took advantage of me".

"I thought there was something wrong with me because if the other girls were like me perhaps they would be dirty like me but they were flowers, when a friend told me about salvation ,she said old things would passed away and all things will become new".

"It was as if God could wash away that stench and I would become a girl because i didn't feel like a girl. I was so shocked when every three or four girls in my school had suffered the same thing and i could tell them old thing would passed away and all thing will become new,just as my friend told me".

"It was a relief to find that I was not the only one and nobody talks about it,thats way salvation worked, i had a daddy and i was going to be a flower".

she post on IG below

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I remember how the silence I had to keep after the abuse slowly killed me .. I also remember the relief I found in my relationship God so early .That really was my rescue ..yet for decades I could never find my voice on the matter .. I was still afraid ..Mostly because I felt it may have been the fault of my seven year old self ..somehow.. Fast forward .. almost thirty years later ..I knew better .. and was ‘big’ enough .. I understood the importance of stepping up when it was time to share my story .. and ..I did in my @kemiadetiba ‘s #kingwomen interview .. it surprised me however,how hard it was to talk about sexual abuse after so many years .. but it was such a relief ..But soon after came the resistance .. In sharing ..I faintly began tasting the shame again .. that same feeling of naked ‘dirtiness ‘’ I had as a child .. it hadn’t completely gone away .It also became clear .. that real stories of sexual abuse still sounded like NOVELTY.. I saw headline after headline .. even in broken English .. this my ‘confession ‘.that ‘ Dem ‘SPOIL ‘ me when I be small pikin’.. It didn’t feel good that it was so ‘sensational’ as I was aware of how massive a plague this was ..WE CLEARLY ARE NOT TALKING ENOUGH ..too many children sexually abused .. too many sex crimes ..especially now .. right under our noses . I had to push past the inner conflict that talking about it was ‘unnecessary’ ... it was too long ago ..too ‘Oyinboish ‘to discuss publicly .. ‘. ‘Then of course ..that talking about it now would make it seem like my family failed me as a child .. but they didn’t .. and could never have known .. I had mastered SILENCE !they were victims too. Every abuse story is different but it is SHAME that makes them complicated.. Sadly , the shame hardly lies with the perpetrators .. So I’ve learnt that it’s time to nail shame right where it belongs ..Far away from the wronged .. Bringing them instead to healing ,justice and freedom. We must teach ever child the power of their voices ,,Apparently ,we must teach adults too ... and more importantly we must learn to listen .. understand and know that Sex is not a dirty word .. but DENIAL is ..
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